tolerance, mine. and more on prop 8.
church stuff, my life, peace, proposition 8, queer stuff. Add commentssometimes i’m just disgusted with myself. we were going along all happy and stuff during the new members meeting at church (sidelight – yes, i’m joining pastor p’s church and he’ll baptize me into his denomination) and we were talking about what it means to join a church. someone brought up the analogy of being married vs living together and the different commitments. i went along with that – even though i don’t think that marriage is necessarily more of a commitment than living together.. but then someone said “it’s like just hanging out” and didn’t even let them finish their sentence. *igh* i went off on how my papa and stepmother lived together for 15 – 20 years (i forget how long) before ever getting married and they were FAR more committed when they were ‘just living together’ (esp. after all those years) than most young couples who are married.
*igh* my excuse is that i felt all protective about my papa and that i thought that that remark about living together being ‘just hanging out’ was making a judgment that someone had no right to make.
on the other hand. i had no right to make the comment i made either. the tone of my comment was just as judgmental as the one i was accusing of being judgmental. i had no right to jump in like i did. i hate that i’m triggered so easily and jump down people’s throats like that. it annoys me to no end about myself – especially since i preach all this tolerance and crap and i am often the very opposite. i need to apologize to this person next sunday at church.
i watch pastor p. being all tolerant and kind and forgiving of others. hell – i’ve been a real ass to the guy recently (not purposely) and he forgave me. i’m going to be at this church until i finish this degree and this ability not to be so triggered is one thing that i’m hoping i’ll be able to learn from pastor p (and others) before i leave. i’ll be a much much better person for it and i’ll like myself a lot better for it as well.
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on another topic – prop 8. (yes, yes, i know – you are tired of hearing about prop 8. i’m not). some links from around the blogsphere beyond the break about prop 8 + a great picture i took from quaker dave’s website.
- from quaker dave: what i almost said at meeting today.
- from ding @ bitch phd: party over, a primer on equality and prop 8
- from the salt lake tribune: thousands in salt lake city protest the lds stance on same-sex marriage.
- from the sf gate: at least 400 protest outside mormon church, thousands more in sacramento.
- if you missed it, from marshall thompson: no props for proposition 8.
- from elle phd: wtf is wrong with us?
- from bitch phd @ bitch phd: thoughts on the passing of proposition 8.
- from feministe: no we can’t.
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